Seek Solitude

One of the truest acts of love is the ability to find someone you can comfortably share your solitude with. Yes, I know, that sounds like an oxymoron, and yet that is what true love feels like for me. For two people to manage to be alone together, means that there is safety in the silences. Each one cares for the other’s solitude in that togetherness.

Solitude is such an important aspect of building a healthy relationship with oneself. If you can enjoy your own company, and be in a state of enrapture with life, then that spaciousness of the self shared with another is the rarest. It is also the truest type of love.

I spend a lot of time by myself, and yet I rarely feel lonely. That is an important distinction. I feel that there is such an epidemic of loneliness in our world. It has more to do with the lack of quality relationships or interactions. That is not the same as solitude. Solitude is more of a spiritual practice, of consciously being and connecting with oneself. That the witness and the witnessing is from you to you.

Seeking solitude is an imperative for me. This is my time to connect with the beauty of nature. I listen to the calling of my higher-self of consciousness and to receive. If you can fill your own cup in this way then you will discover that you will have better and more fulfilling relationships. As you will not need others to fill the void. Your interaction with others comes from a place of overflow and mutual give and take.

I have spent the last month active in my solitude. Being quiet, resting, slowing down. Limiting the expenditure of energy and noticing where I am allowing or dis-allowing my energy to flow. I noticed that the relationships of most value in my life are the ones where I can feel those aspects of solitude. The long silent witnessing of each other. The knowing looks and gestures. The engaging conversation that adds energy rather than subtracts it. The feeling of unity and harmony within and with each other. This is the lived experience of what peace is all about.

Interestingly, I have been very productive this month within the stillness and the rest. As I reflect on the happenings of September, I am amazed that I have completed writing two books (due for release in October). I began and maintained a daily Reel challenge each morning sharing a little wisdom. I started a new course to become a marriage celebrant. I am about to host my first Sitting with Sisters event, which is a women’s circle and sound healing journey. Most significantly for me, I am allowing love to bloom. I am surrendering to the divine orchestration of seeking solitude with a beloved.

My friends, this is the power of seeking solitude. This is the power of the seeds of potential sprouting when there is fertile soil, water and air. I am so grateful as I type these words. I reflect on the last 12 months. This time last year, I was preparing for a complete Thyroidectomy and there were so many unknowns for me. As I keep moving forward, I greet all that presents itself to me with curiosity and stillness. I find that the path opens up to reveal many surprises.

This coming Sunday 29 September, come along to sit in Solitude together. We will water those seeds of self-love and nourishment. Unplug and open our hearts to receive. click here for details.

Sitting with Sisters 29 September 10am -11.30am | Windsor NSW

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